foroneandall:
goldenheartedrose:
Also lol at anon for thinking that it’s impossible for autistic people to ever consider that something might be difficult and frustrating for us. Because Jfc, some of us are nonverbal all the time and some of us are nonverbal sometimes and even when we’re not, communication difficulties are enormously frustrating and yes, we understand that autism can be hard. I am Autistic and being autistic is difficult sometimes and being misunderstood hurts and having people think that they know what you need hurts.
Allistic parents who say they hate autism don’t just use these words. They show it through their actions when they abuse and kill us. They do so when they administer bleach enemas and chelation and hyperbaric oxygen treatments to “cure” us because Jenny McCarthy told them it’d work.
I’m pretty sure parents don’t hate their autistic children
like, what the actual fuck for even suggesting that
Really? Really?
Read this link (tw for followers on vicious, vile hate for what being autistic entails). I’m particularly interested in the line that says “I would change him in a heartbeat.I would sell my soul to the devil to get rid of his autism. I want him to have the exact personality he has now minus the autism.”
Which to me fucking screams “No, you don’t love your child, because you’re wishing for something impossible.” Being autistic is a part of your kid’s personality. It makes them who they are, and wishing that away means you are literally wishing for a different kid. Not just a not-autistic version of your kid, because that is fucking impossible. But an entirely different person.
Here, have some more “I hate autism” sentiment.
Autism does sucks alot! We should be painting our nails, putting on makeup, playing with Barbie dolls, instead my daughter screams and cries all day and plays with her feces!!
So basically, instead of trying to figure out why those things are happening (and I guarantee you that your daughter is in some sort of discomfort that you are ignoring), you’re going to whine about the child you should have had. Because you clearly deserve a better one, amirite? (that’s sarcasm at the end,by the way).
And I already mentioned other ways in which allistic parents show how much they hate their kids, but let me give you some concrete examples.
FDA on “bleach enemas”
The use of chelation for autistic children.
How about these parents who locked up their autistic kid in a dog cage?
How about this parent who killed her six month old child because she thought she was beginning to show the signs of autism?
Or, how about we look at a promotional video created by Autism Speaks, where a member of their board talks of a murder/suicide plan in front of her autistic daughter, as if her daughter couldn’t understand? And the only reason she chose not to was because of her neurotypical child.
And the above example is the person who founded the Autism Science Foundation. So, you know. Still doing harm there, clearly.
There was also a segment of the Dr. Phil show where a mother claimed that she hated her autistic daughter. I can’t watch the link again myself because it makes me feel ill, but I think it’s this one.
So yeah, foreoneandall, maybe you should, you know, listen to autistic people when we say that some of the people who are supposed to be taking care of us (our parents, our guardians) are the ones we are most in danger of. Yes, allistic parents hate their autistic children. And not every single one if them is going to say that they do, but the vast majority show it in the way that they treat their kids.
When you hate one of the things that makes an autistic person who they are, well, yes, you hate them. That would be like saying “my son is gay, how sad. I wish he were who he was without being gay”. That isn’t wishing for the same kid with the same personality and interests. That’s wishing for a whole different kid. Being autistic is as essential to me as being queer. I wouldn’t change a thing about either, except how society treats us.